Saturday, July 21, 2007

Oh baby...

Yes, I've noticed that my friends have all decided to have babies before me so I figured I should start trying too.. that is, trying to find reasons to answer that inevitable question: "So..when are you all going to start trying?"

First, my husband reminded me that no matter what, my first role is always being fulfilled as a daughter of God. Then, I also am completely fulfilling God's purpose for me by being a wife. Sometime I am tempted to get focused on what I don't have, or what I think God is not providing for me, as if He is withholding blessing from me, but it is not true. There is no moment in our lives when we are not fulfilling His purposes. We can however stray from them, especially in my case, by complaining (see the Israelites).

On a lighter note, here is an article I found on on why I need to be childless (at least for now) for all you moms and moms-to-be:

Why You Need at Least One Childless Friend
Of course you love your mom buddies, but it's still a good idea to hang onto the pals you had before kids or to make some new ones whose lives don't revolve around the playground and naptime. Here's why:
-Childless pals link you to your former life. They bring out interests and passions that may have been dormant for a while; you get so used to thinking of yourself as a mom, you forget that you are also an artist, book lover, and runner.
-You need a break from 24-7 kid thinking. It's easy to get so caught up in your baby's world that you don't take time for anything else. Some dishing on adult life (even if it's only Brad and Angelina gossip) can be a wonderful mental break from diaper duty and potty training.
-They offer perspective. Listening to your friend discuss the trials and tribulations
of the dating scene (the grass isn't always greener) may make you appreciate
your life a bit more.
-They admire your baby without giving advice. Childless friends tend to lavish attention on your little one without feeling the need to offer theories on sleep or feeding. Plus, it's just plain fun to watch them enjoy each other.


Jess said...

I'm right there with ya! Dave and I have put off the "start trying date" until at least the spring of next year. Your post was a great reminder of the benefits of not having children yet. I definately want to make the most of this time!

iamchanelle said...

haha! you got me going there for a sec...

so, you mean, those without kids really don't want to hear me go on and on about the last twelve nasty diapers i had to change? hmmm, maybe i should find some other good topics to keep those friends coming back around....


Kelley Murphy said...

i was the childless friend. now i need one. sigh.